WHAT I BRING TO THE WORK
I'm not only a sex and relationship therapist - I'm a qualified psychotherapist and an EMDR UK registered practitioner. Most people come to me for the sex and relationship work, and that's where these deeper skills do their job. This is the toolkit underneath everything I do: the reason I can go further than talking, and help with the things that live in the body and the nervous system, not just the conversation.
You don't need to book "psychotherapy" or "EMDR" as a separate thing. It's simply part of how I work - brought in where it helps, when it helps.
Pyschotherapy
EMDR - for trauma, and for the things trauma leaves behind in the body
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) is one of the main tools I bring in, and it's a bit remarkable. It's an evidence-based way of helping the brain reprocess difficult memories so they stop hijacking the present - using gentle bilateral stimulation, often eye movements, to take the charge out of things that still feel raw.
Most people know it for trauma, and it's powerful there - including sexual trauma and sexual phobias. But what surprises people is how well it works for sexual difficulties you might assume are purely physical - things like painful sex and vaginismus, erectile and arousal difficulties, performance anxiety, and the shame or fear that builds up around sex after a hard experience. Often the body is holding onto something the mind has tried to move past, and EMDR helps release it. It works just as well online as in the room, so you can do this from home if that feels safer.
Hypno-psychotherapy and deep relaxation - for getting underneath the noise
Some things don't shift by talking harder at them. Trance work - drawing on hypno-psychotherapy and NLP - is simply a focused, deeply relaxed state where I can gently help you reach the feelings and patterns sitting underneath. It's genuinely useful for trauma, sexual difficulties and performance anxiety, and like EMDR, it works just as well online as face to face.
If you're neurodivergent, I get it - I'm one of you
I have ADHD myself, so this isn't just something I've read about - I know from the inside how differently our brains can work. I work with ADHD, autism, AuDHD and neurodivergence of all kinds, and I take a strengths-based approach rather than treating you like a problem to be fixed.
Yes, things like focus, emotional regulation, sensory needs and communication can play out in tricky ways around relationships and intimacy - and they're rarely talked about honestly. But the flip side is real too: creativity, spontaneity, passion, deep feeling, seeing the world differently. Together we work with how your brain actually functions, using practical tools for the harder bits, so relationships and sex feel less like something you're masking through and more like yours.
Why the body matters (and no, nothing physical happens here)
First, to be completely clear: this is talking therapy. You'll never be asked to undress or do anything physical in a session - everything happens in conversation, fully clothed, entirely at your pace. Any body-based practices are things you try in your own time, never anything I do to you.
With that said - lasting change rarely comes from the neck up, so I bring in a few body-aware ideas:
Your nervous system (Polyvagal Theory). So much of intimacy comes down to whether your body feels safe. As your system settles, communication and closeness get easier and the anxiety eases - you can't really connect while you're braced.
Your attachment style. How you learned to bond as a child shapes how you do closeness and sex now. Understanding whether you lean secure, anxious, avoidant or somewhere in between helps make sense of patterns that may have baffled you for years.
What your body's holding (Somatic work). Stress and trauma live in the body, and they show up in how sex feels and how safe you feel with someone. Through mindfulness and breathwork you can do in your own time, I'll help you reconnect with your body, ease some of the tension, and get clearer on what you actually want - and where your boundaries are.
These are the skills I bring to every piece of work we do together - the reason sex and relationship therapy with me can reach the things underneath. Where it helps, I'll suggest small things to try between sessions, so the change happens in your life and not just in my room. You don't have to know which tool you need; that's my job. If you're ready, or even just curious, reach out.