Things have got hard between you, and you're wondering whether talking to someone would help. Reaching out is a braver thing than people give it credit for and it's often the moment things start to turn. Relationship therapy (couples therapy, same thing) is just a calm, honest space to work out what's going wrong and how to make it better.
You don't have to arrive with it all figured out. That's what the first conversation is for.
COSRT-accredited sex & relationship therapist · EMDRUK- accredited practitioner ·
Relationship Therapist of the Year 2024 · as seen on Channel 4
What we're actually working towards
Together we'll get clear on what's really getting in the way, agree what you both want to be different, and start shifting it. Not my version of a good relationship - yours. Whatever's going on, you don't have to untangle it on your own.
What I can help with
Couples come to me for all sorts of reasons, including:
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Communication that keeps breaking down
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The same argument, on a loop
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Rebuilding after an affair
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Feeling more like flatmates than partners
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Mismatched sex drives or sexual difficulties
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Opening up a relationship, or navigating non-monogamy and kink dynamics
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Reconnecting after having children
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The strain of fertility struggles
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Life transitions - including gender transitions and new chapters
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Working out whether to stay, and how to separate kindly if not
A non-shaming approach
There's no judgement here, and no taking sides. Whatever's happening between you, I've almost certainly sat with a couple facing something similar — and if I haven't, I'll be glad you trusted me with it. We'll look at what's really driving the patterns, not just the surface arguments.
How I actually work
Every couple is different, so I don't force you into one model - I draw on a few well-tested approaches depending on what's going on between you.
Getting the friendship back. So much of what keeps couples close is the everyday stuff - feeling liked, not just loved, and being able to argue without it turning cruel. The Gottman Method gives us a clear way to see where that connection's strong and where it's worn thin.
Understanding why you both react the way you do. A lot of what happens in our relationships traces back to what we learned long before we met our partner. Through Imago's guided conversations, you start to really hear each other again - and the old patterns loosen their grip.
Holding both safety and desire. Drawing on Esther Perel's work, we look honestly at intimacy - how to feel secure and keep desire alive, when those two things so often pull in opposite directions.
Rebuilding the bond underneath the arguments. Most rows aren't really about the dishes. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps us spot the cycle you get stuck in and rebuild that gut-level sense of "I've got you."
You don't need to know which of these you need - that's my job. Between us, we'll find what actually helps your relationship.
Whatever's going on between you, you don't have to have it all worked out to start - that's what the first conversation is for. Whether you come together or one of you comes first, if you're ready, or even just curious, reach out.