Sexology

Many people find it challenging to discuss sexual issues, yet most will encounter some type of sexual problem during their lifetime. Sex therapy is a specialised form of therapy focused on helping individuals and couples address sexual problems or concerns. It provides a safe, non-judgmental environment for discussing sexual issues.

 

The primary goal of sex therapy is to assist individuals and couples in overcoming their sexual difficulties, improving their sexual functioning, and enhancing their overall sexual and relational satisfaction.

 

As a psychosexual therapist, I can assist with a range of issues, including:

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• Low sexual desire and arousal difficulties

• Vaginismus

• Pelvic/vulva pain disorders

• Anorgasmia

• Sex aversion

• Erectile dysfunction

• Premature ejaculation

• Delayed ejaculation

• Sexual trauma

• Sexual shame

• Chemsex

• Exploration of kinks and fetishes

• Out of control sexual behaviour

• Compulsive sexual behaviour

• Pornographic compulsive behaviour

• Performance anxiety

• Navigating an HIV diagnosis

• Virginity issues in later life

• Sexual health concerns

• Sexual orientation insecurities, including the ACE spectrum

• Transitioning insecurities

 

My approach is comprehensive, considering the biological, social, and cultural aspects of your lives and how these intersect to impact your sexuality.

 

Biological factors: Genetics, hormones, and physical health can significantly influence sexuality. For instance, hormonal imbalances or chronic health conditions might impact sexual desire, arousal, or performance.

 

Social factors: Family dynamics, peer relationships, education, and media exposure can shape sexual attitudes and behaviours. For example, a conservative upbringing might lead to more reserved sexual attitudes and practices, while exposure to sexually explicit media might foster more open attitudes.

 

Cultural factors: Religion, ethnicity, and nationality can deeply influence sexual behaviour, gender roles, and sexual orientation. Cultural norms around sexual modesty vary, with some cultures emphasising restraint and others adopting a more liberal approach.

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I do not subscribe to the sex addiction model; instead, I approach these issues through a sexual compulsivity framework. The term "sex addiction" has traditionally described various problematic sexual behaviours, such as excessive pornography use and compulsive masturbation. However, this classification is contentious among professionals, as it doesn’t involve the same neurochemical processes found in substance addiction.

 

I prefer the term "sexual compulsivity," which describes a pattern of sexual behaviour that some may find overwhelming and distressing. In addressing these behaviours, I use a non-shaming, non-pathologising approach focused on understanding and resolving the underlying causes of the behaviour.